Is he/she worth waiting for, does she/he feeling the same
way I do? Am I kidding myself thinking long-distance can work? What if they
find someone else? These questions and more are likely to haunt people in a
long-distance relationship. Moreover, Skype calls and blinking chat windows
can't replace physical presence. But this can be dealt with, wisely.
Long distance relationships are not a new concept in
India. Increased globalisation and rapid development across the country, has
increased its prevalence, and has made it important to sustain such
relationships as every couple at some point of time will have to face distance.
With increased education, cultural maturity and the permeation of digital
technologies in our lives, the value and significance of protecting
relationships has grown.
A 2018 survey on long-distance couples found that while
27 per cent had never lived near each other, about 50 per cent of couples in
the survey had met each other online.
We speak to an expert, Hirak Patel, Counselling
Psychologist, Fortis Hospital, Mulund, who shares a few coping mechanisms that
couples follow to nurture a long-distance relationship:
MUTUAL
ACCEPTANCE
Acceptance that in this phase, the person is not going to
be around you physically. Accept the reason behind getting into this phase, the
variable reasons could be due to a job switch, financial needs, family
circumstances or any other. Acceptance helps the couple sail through the phase
smoothly and keep the lamp of hope burning.
COMMUNICATION
IS KEY
Communication is a key aspect when people are in a
long-distance relationship. Truthful communication and giving enough space is
important. One needs to understand that there is some leeway that needs to be
given. Communicate because you feel like it and do not force yourself into it.
Sharing things about each other's day can help in maintaining a crucial
connection even from afar.
BE
BALANCED
Make sure your dependence and independence are
well-balanced. Ensure your partner knows how much you need him/her, but don't
cling, as that can make your partner feel trapped.
USING
TECHNOLOGY IN DIFFERENT WAYS
Video call, writing an E-mail, surprising through
letters, online gifting to maintain excitement in the relationship is good way
to stay connected and express love.
ENCOURAGE
LISTENING
Show immediate appreciation when he/she listens to you
properly and show interest when they are talking. You need to stay connected by
sharing.
DOING
ACTIVITIES TOGETHER
There is a need to explore and experience things together
when people are in a relationship, but in a long distance relationship, it
becomes difficult. However, doing some activities together like watching a
movie at the same time, virtually cooking together, or exploring one's day
virtually could help the couple sail through. Also, make time for a holiday
together as well.
MAINTAINING TRUST
Trust the foundation of all strong relationships. Even if there is a physical distance, attachment and emotional connection can be sustained effectively. Trusting the partner becomes an important aspect for a relationship to sustain and thrive in distance. Giving the virtual and personal space to each other, respecting, and accepting the changes and avoid linking all issues and concerns to physical distance is important.
Distance prevents intimacy from taking significance in a
relationship. When two people are apart, it is too easy to idealise and
romanticise each other. It is a good feeling though but sometimes it can be
delusional. It's too easy to overlook the mundane, yet important differences
and get caught up in the drama of our minds instead of the boring truths of our
hearts.
Taking initiative to understand these aspects is crucial
in a relationship. Relationships can be complicated and difficult but if
handled wisely it can go a long way to sustain a healthy and happy life.
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