Reeling under stress! Checkout these secrets to become mentally strong?
The mentally strong people look at the situation considering two things: First, the choice which they made and ....Author : Priyal Mahajan
Humans are full of emotions and it’s really hard to be modest in each and every situation which hits you up in your life. But there are “some” people who don’t get affected by the things happening around them and they are different or may be unique and they know how to handle whatever life throws their way without disturbing their mental peace.
Obviously, they are not unaffected cause that’s not the human tendency! Instead, they undergo the emotions at a deeper level but don’t waste their energy trying to change up situations or people.
Instead, they focus on what they can do, change their own traits, feelings, and thoughts which hence provide them inner tranquillity. Instead of wasting their time thinking or overthinking instead, they invest their precious time in improving themselves and that’s the secret!
But how can you that you ask? Here!
1. Know your boundaries
You have the right to decide whom you want to be with and from whom you wish to keep a gap! Know how your close people react to your way of taking decisions, engaging with people who gossip, lie, bully, cheat or troll you for being you are not the people whom you belong with. Yes, no one is perfect or made for one another but changing these toxic people is not what you need to do to attain your mental peace. Instead, you need to know how and when to maintain emotional and physical boundaries.
2. Analyzing the path of Happiness
In this fast-moving life, people usually run behind materialism which provides only short-term happiness which will leave you with disappointment when you are alone or when you lose the funds to buy stuff. So stop running behind temporary happiness, instead, look for long-term pleasure and satisfaction.
Get ready to put all your efforts in, put in hard work to gain permanent happiness. Say no to save your valuable time as well as funds on a thing that will only provide temporary satisfaction, instead find a plan how you can build something so valuable that will stop you from looking for small happiness. And believing your idea of permanent happiness will make you happy, besides that, you will observe that you will gain pleasure when you take small steps to achieve your long-term happiness.
Stop blaming yourself for petty things which don’t even matter. Every situation in life won’t end being happy and nothing in life will go as per your desire or plan it to go but whatever happens, will lead you to an ultimate destiny which you deserve and this is true no matter what. Just know it and accept the reality of life.
So stop blaming yourself for whatever is happening with you or around you or with someone else. The mentally strong people look at the situation considering two things: First, the choice which they made and the things which were not in their control (such as weather, economy, etc.)
4. Become discomfortable
Everyone feels pleasure in being in their comfort zone but for being mentally strong you need to be ready to face what you fear or something that you don’t wish to happen in your life. In short, you need to test your limits; you should experience how it feels to be discomfortable and how to tolerate difficult situations.
5. Impress people
Never waste time to impress people, trying to be what others want you to be will give them the power to command you and overtake you. You don’t need to impress anyone, instead, you need to focus on your life the way you want, make choices that make you comfortable and not others. Be comfortable in your skin. If someone wants to be with you they will be with you and will not consider you on the type of choices you make.
6. Being Perfect
Striving to better every day is great, but to be perfect might bring a lot of expectations along the way. You need to accept that failure is a part of life and by making mistakes you will grow up, learn what you fear. Get to know yourself better and acknowledge your flaws.
It is widely known that forgiving is better than clinging to anger or hatred. This is because grudges don’t punish someone but it keeps you entrapped in the thoughts of the person whom you want to forget or let go. So the best option is to ‘let go’ and stop wasting your time on someone who has harmed you, which will not only save your time but it will also save your energy which you can utilize on something beautiful!
At times you are stuck in some situations which you can’t handle by your own self and at that time you need to realize that taking help from someone is not a thing of shame. You need to accept the fact that you also need help at times and it’s natural to ask for it. Knowing that you can’t do everything is another step to becoming mentally strong and also provides inner solitude.
So just accept what comes on your way and learn to undergo all the situations life throws at you cause your job is to be in the best state of you howsoever the situation might be. All the best on your journey to be mentally strong!