Humans are full of emotions and it’s really hard to bemodest in each and every situation which hits you up in your life. But thereare “some” people who don’t get affected by the things happening around themand they are different or may be unique and they know how to handle whateverlife throws their way without disturbing their mental peace.
Obviously, they are not unaffected cause that’s not thehuman tendency! Instead, they undergo the emotions at a deeper level but don’twaste their energy trying to change up situations or people.
Instead, they focus on what they can do, change their owntraits, feelings, and thoughts which hence provide them inner tranquillity.Instead of wasting their time thinking or overthinking instead, they investtheir precious time in improving themselves and that’s the secret!
But how can you that you ask? Here!
1. Know your boundaries
You have the right to decide whom you want to be with andfrom whom you wish to keep a gap! Know how your close people react to yourway of taking decisions, engaging with people who gossip, lie, bully, cheat or trollyou for being you are not the people whom you belong with. Yes, no one isperfect or made for one another but changing these toxic people is not what youneed to do to attain your mental peace. Instead, you need to know how and whento maintain emotional and physical boundaries.
2. Analyzing the path of Happiness
In this fast-moving life, people usually run behind materialism which provides only short-term happiness which will leave you with disappointmentwhen you are alone or when you lose the funds to buy stuff. So stop runningbehind temporary happiness, instead, look for long-term pleasure andsatisfaction.
Get ready to put all your efforts in, put in hard work togain permanent happiness. Say no to save your valuable time as well asfunds on a thing that will only provide temporary satisfaction, instead find aplan how you can build something so valuable that will stop you from lookingfor small happiness. And believing your idea of permanent happiness will makeyou happy, besides that, you will observe that you will gain pleasure when youtake small steps to achieve your long-term happiness.
3. Self-blame
Stop blaming yourself for petty things which don’t evenmatter. Every situation in life won’t end being happy and nothing in life willgo as per your desire or plan it to go but whatever happens, will lead you to anultimate destiny which you deserve and this is true no matter what. Just know itand accept the reality of life.
So stop blaming yourself for whatever is happening withyou or around you or with someone else. The mentally strong people look at thesituation considering two things: First, the choice which they made and thethings which were not in their control (such as weather, economy, etc.)
4. Become discomfortable
Everyone feels pleasure in being in their comfort zonebut for being mentally strong you need to be ready to face what you fear orsomething that you don’t wish to happen in your life. In short, you need to testyour limits; you should experience how it feels to be discomfortable and howto tolerate difficult situations.
5. Impress people
Never waste time to impress people, trying to be whatothers want you to be will give them the power to command you and overtake you.You don’t need to impress anyone, instead, you need to focus on your life theway you want, make choices that make you comfortable and not others. Becomfortable in your skin. If someone wants to be with you they will be with youand will not consider you on the type of choices you make.
6. Being Perfect
Striving to better every day is great, but to be perfect mightbring a lot of expectations along the way. You need to accept that failure isa part of life and by making mistakes you will grow up, learn what you fear.Get to know yourself better and acknowledge your flaws.
7. Grudges
It is widely known that forgiving is better than clingingto anger or hatred. This is because grudges don’t punish someone but it keepsyou entrapped in the thoughts of the person whom you want to forget or let go.So the best option is to ‘let go’ and stop wasting your time on someone who hasharmed you, which will not only save your time but it will also save yourenergy which you can utilize on something beautiful!
8. Self-reliance
At times you are stuck in some situations which you can’thandle by your own self and at that time you need to realize that taking helpfrom someone is not a thing of shame. You need to accept the fact that you alsoneed help at times and it’s natural to ask for it. Knowing that you can’t doeverything is another step to becoming mentally strong and also provides innersolitude.
So just accept what comes on your way and learn toundergo all the situations life throws at you cause your job is to be in thebest state of you howsoever the situation might be. All the best on yourjourney to be mentally strong!